Tuesday, November 17, 2009

I shouldn't be surprised...

I knew that everyone would have different reactions to adoption, but I didn't realize I would already be running into the negative reactions.  I felt a little deflated after sharing our good news today.  I guess I was expecting everyone to be nothing but excited for us.  We are not going into this process with our eyes closed.  I know first-hand about the struggles that people face during adoption...my parents faced some of those before finding me.  Joel and I fully expect feelings of anxiety, frustration and fear.  We don't need to be warned of difficulties that we might face.  Joel and I have faced the most difficult thing I think anyone could go through... the unexpected and tragic loss of our first child.  We survived it and I honestly believe that as individuals and as a couple, we are stronger for it.  If we can survive that, we can certainly survive something that, in the end, will bring us so much joy and love.

That being said, it is the end result that we're focusing on and whatever lies ahead of us getting there is just another building block to stregnthen our family.


  1. It was amazing to me when we encountered the same issues, you will discover everyone has an opinion and sometimes speak without thinking! With adoption people ask much more invasive questions than they would ever ask someone who was physically giving birth! Keep your head up and your excitement going!! So very happy for you!!

  2. I'm sorry for the negative comments :(. Every time Steven and I mention the word we get all kinds of negative responses. The icing on the cake happened last week....I'll have to share with you later. I think it's fabulous news and couldn't be more thrilled!!! I feel that people are so misinformed, they don't understand AND they don't want to take the time to understand.....they just can't keep their opinions to themselves. Hang in there you will both make it through this time and Steven and I are excited to watch your journey!!!!

  3. I am very sorry to hear that you have had negative responses to your decision. I am so excited to hear that you are starting the adoption process. What an exciting and nerve racking time. Stay strong!! I know we haven't talked as much in the last few years but I want you to know how proud I am of both of you. You guys deserve this!!!! I will pray that your first meeting goes GREAT!!